Being Your Eternal Self Through Love And Compassion

By Aquila: Part 4 of 4 Self- Sabotage a Spiritual Perspective 

If you have been following my series of clearing out self-sabotage behaviors by embracing and embodying your innate infinite self, in my last article we explored how self injury can take you deeper and deeper into the space beyond all the random thoughts that seem to pull you away from your natural state of an infinite being-ness. 

Both practices, that of Self-Inquiry and this one, Love and Compassion can eventually fade into the feeling of being safe and free from harm, being content and happy, and being whole in this ever expanding moment we can “now.” You are already whole, the essence of who you are. The sensation of resting in ease of well-being, far from the dis-ease and fragmentation we experience so frequently. This sensation is the essence of loving-kindness and compassion for self and others. 


The following phrases might be helpful to you as you rest here in this field of embracing of loving-kindness in your heart. You can also hear them being whispered by the wind, by your breath, by the world, or you can even assert them with great feeling. 

Let’s begin by feeling that love and kindness is filling your heart as you breathe. Consider yourself to be glowing with the energy of love. This energy will now be passed on and expand outward to the infinite field around you. Say the following to yourself or out loud now as you read this: 

May I be protected, safe, and free of harm both in and outside of myself. May I be free from pain. May I be free from suffering. May I be content and happy. May I be healthy, whole and peaceful. May I be able to enjoy a sense of well-being and be filled with loving-kindness, now. 

Slowly, gently, over and over again, inwardly whispering, feeling, sensing and affirming these words. I recommend repeating the whole thing a minimum of 6 times.

It may feel strange at first to be saying or even thinking such things to yourself. After all, who is this “I” wishing for this? And who is the “I” who is the recipient of these wishes? 

You might be wondering why, if this is a selfless practice, I’m focusing on myself. How does my own sense of safety and well-being influence me? What effect does it have on my own happiness? In response, I want to tell you that you are not separate from the universe that created you, and that you are thus equally deserving of loving-kindness. Love and kindness cannot coexist unless you include yourself. However, there is no need to be concerned. You are not the only one who is affected. This field of loving-kindness is infinite. As we have been practicing loving-kindness up to this point, you could compare it to tuning your instrument before you play it in public. In this situation, simply tuning the instrument constitutes a tremendous act of kindness, compassion and love. 

After some practice with this you are able to intentionally expand your heart field, just like you do in all mindfulness practices earlier in this series for instance. This awareness field, once you have created it and it has become a reasonably stable field of loving-kindness around yourself, then linger there for some time and enjoy the pure pleasure of this experience of being held, cradled, and soothed in it. 

You can then expand this loving kindness. Extending your embrace of love to other beings either individually or in large groups. It is not always easy to achieve this. In order to explore feelings of loving-kindness, it’s helpful to start with one individual with whom you naturally have feelings of compassion. Otherwise, you can embrace yourself as the recipient of your own love and kindness, either using the phrases we are already using, or modifying them as you see fit. 

This meditation’s goal is to cultivate kindness for all beings, including yourself, and to: family, friends, pets, neighbors, acquaintances, and difficult people in your life. 

Try this simplified version or the more elaborate phase, I recommend you repeat 6 times for yourself before you shift it outwardly. Once you feel a strong love and compassion inward it will get easier and easier to expand it outward to others.

1) Take some slow deep breaths and focus on your heart.

2) This phrase can be recited silently to yourself. Say, “May I be happy.”. May I be safe. May I find peace.” Slowly repeat the phrase. Get in touch with the feeling of these statements. If you get distracted, avoid judging yourself. Just return to the phrase and keep repeating it. 

3) Think about your friends and family now. Consider a single person or an entire group of people. Wish them happiness by saying, “May you be happy.”. May you be safe. I wish you peace.” Imagine them feeling happy, safe, and at peace. 

4) Continue to repeat the phrase to neighbors, acquaintances, and difficult people. Imagining these people happy and free from suffering. Try to repeat the phrase as many times as you can until you feel the same level of compassion for yourself, for others. 

“It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.” — Doe Zantamata 

My life mission as a spiritual teacher, energy healer and psychic on this site requires me to see people at their most vulnerable and raw states of beingness. People who have been hurt or who have hurt others they care about unintentionally. Relationships that have broken down due to something they said or did. In spite of what was done or not done. In part through the practices I have listed in this series and many more I intend to share in the future. I hope to help you understand that people are not inherently bad or evil. We are born with pure souls of love and light and underneath all of a person’s “poor methods,” pain and heartache there is a good and pure heart and soul. Their motivation may be misguided, or they are, or they may have addictions, or a mental illness, or just suffering a temporary setback. But these circumstances are not who the person is at their core.

Let me say that again: Bad behaviors do not make you a bad person. The above quote reminds us that the path of growth is through understanding and compassion not judgment. Good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. We are all a work in progress. So let’s have love and compassion for ourselves and others so we may all grow together. 

Thank you to all who have been following this series of letting go of self sabotage by embodying and embracing your infinite self. It’s been a pleasure sharing this information with you! I am always available in my chats to go deeper into any of these practices and coach you one on one. I am here to aid you in your spiritual, emotional and mental understanding of these topics and so much more. It’s truly an honor for me to be a part of your journey and it’s a blessing getting to know each and every one of you! 


Infinite Blessings of love and light, 


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A metaphysical teacher and psychic intuitive for more than 20 years and specializes love readings, challenging relationships, career readings, and life paths.

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