Dating A Married Man– Will He Leave His Marriage?

By Mel: Quite often when a married man takes on a lover, he is very unaware that he reflects his married personality, which to the new lover is highly attractive and intoxicating.  After all, single men do not give up the same vibe, and marriage is often a dirty word. That is why for some women, being with a married man makes them feel like a new potential wife.  

On the other hand, it is one of the hardest roads to travel, denial, and misinterpretation of goals, especially if the married man is not ready for a new life, regardless of the state of their marriage. The ever-hopeful lover ends up too invested to move on and remains in limbo, always waiting and always hoping. Finding another relationship is equally daunting. You give in when he says he loves you and wants to leave his marriage but doesn’t ever seem to come through with anything to make it feel worthwhile.      

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Not knowing how to divorce or avoid the drama and judgment around it can put off a lot of people, and that is why a married man will experiment with an affair to see where it could take him. But the indirect disadvantage is he is not telling you to wait, he is married and it is your decision to be with him, right? It is a risky catch 22 situation. Some married men draw lovers into their lives for selfish reasons, rather than mutually beneficial outcomes. So that inevitably puts the onus on you. It moves into the avenue of, “You know I’m married, I did not offer you a guarantee.”    

If anyone was to ask for advice, I would say be very careful when you decide to get involved with a married man, make sure that he makes progress out of his current marriage, and doesn’t draw you in with endless false hope. Marriage is said to be a union that should last to the grave, but in reality, it doesn’t.  A lot of people fall in love with another person while they are married, or they are both married, which is even more complicated. The fact is, married people do fall in love with other people outside of their marriage and find the courage, strength and solutions to a new future, and marry the new person in their life.  But what makes some people more successful at it, and others not. Its certainty, certain of what you want, certain of the person you are involved with, not afraid of the unknown, no doubts and no hesitation, and not being in denial of their lover’s existence.

If you have questions and concerns with regards to love and relationships, please feel free to contact us here in Lifereader, we are more than willing to enlighten you with your doubts and provide you with clarity.

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Love and Light,

Mel

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