Coping With Post Traumatic Relationship Stress

By Gertrude: When we speak in terms of traumatic stress, often we first think of life and death situations. When we are grieving for a broken relationship, it is one of the most stressful times of our lives. Like the stages of grief, we experience stages when we are moving on from a relationship.

It is a known fact that stress is stored in the body. When we are yearning for someone, often we are overwhelmed with emotion. Understand that what you are experiencing is a traumatic event. Also, be aware that grief is something a human being will naturally avoid. So you might find that your friends, family or colleagues aren’t empathetic. Often we push away the grief of others not because we don’t care or understand. But because it is difficult to see you suffer. Or they find it too overwhelming to delve into their own experiences.


You might often feel like no one understands. In some, respect that it is true. The lesson through all of this is not so much that others understand you. This is a fertile time to improve your life and your own understanding. In order for us to relieve the stress we have in our bodies and the emotional trauma we are feeling inside, we often look for a quick fix and wish the time away. Wondering how much longer the pain will go on. It is never easy. And often it does take time as well as a multiple of modalities until you feel you are healing.

One method of understanding your current situation is to simply talk about it. This is a great way to get affirmations and insight in how to move forward from where you are right now. To also create a more mindful way of dealing with your life. Right now, it may feel like that you will never find love. Or you might be stuck hoping they will see the error of their ways, miss you like you miss them and come back.

Now is the time where you need to be fruitful, evolve. If a relationship is going to reignite it will do so only because you have both grown from the experience and resolved to follow your own path, not to live for a relationship. But instead, work as a strong team with the same goals and destinations in mind. All effective communication comes from within. When we allow ourselves to grieve and still forge our own path, we become stronger, more resilient, and it enables us to not only have wisdom, but to put our lessons into practice.

In addition to being a life reader, I am also a Psychologist, Holistic Counselor and Couples and Family Counselor. So I will bring all of my experience to a session. I would love to work with you through this difficult time.

Right now you have an incredible opportunity. This is where you water your own lawn, create your own garden. It isn’t a time where you are lost. In fact, this is the time when you can work out where you are and how to draw in the love, the relationship and the life that you know you deserve. This isn’t always about what we want, but it is always about what we need. Putting yourself first is the kindest act of love for not only yourself but the people around you. You are that confident person. Right now you are hurt, stressed and anxious. So it will always be difficult to concentrate. To see the future areas, give yourself a break. The world is changing right now and it is okay to feel the trepidation of the unknown.

We are all meant to be isolating and cleaning up our lives right now. I want you to know that you are going to be okay at the end of the day. That there are tools for you to create a happier and healthier outlook. So take a deep breath, in fact, take a few.

Now is also the time to disconnect your connection from your hurt. Don’t allow that energy to be drawn out anymore. Save it for yourself. Allow it to naturally propel you forward. It might seem that right now the grass is greener on the other side, remember now is the time to nurture your own garden.

Let’s connect and see how we can look for affirmations and insight into the way through and to bring in some healing energy. It is okay to feel what you are feeling right now. Just allow your inner wisdom to turn this all around to your advantage. Create from this the best possible outcome.

Every storm brings a renewal and like mother nature, you will regrow. Taller, prouder and knowing what you deserve in a relationship.


Love and Light,


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