The Art Of Letting Go

By Annelize: We love to control, we love control, we love to be in control. We want to control ourselves; we love to control others. We want to control life in general. What is it that drives us to control circumstances when we do not have control of it? Uncertainty, fear, shame, guilt, blame, just read more…

What Is Love?

By Annelize: Love is the indescribable mixture of experiencing different lives in this one body. As a newborn baby receiving love, unconditional love, nurture and protection. The little toddler exploring the world, but running back to the safety of arms love when danger approaches. The spirited little girl, that is worry free, loving nature, childishly read more…

Let’s Save Suicide

By Annelize: “There is not one big cosmic meaning for all, there is only the meaning we each give to our life.” – Anais Nin The permanent end. This week, someone I know committed suicide. The permanent effect of it shocked me. Never again will he be seen, touched, hugged, chatted with. His wife will read more…

Boundaries… A Life Saver

By Annelize: We all need safe boundaries to live by, we often found ourselves tangled up in life and relationships that might not be working, where we feel unheard, perhaps unsafe, violated or even toxic. One thing that I learned from being in a co-dependent relationship for many years was that the lack of boundaries read more…

A Letter To Friends Telling You To Move On

By Annelize: Dear friend, I thought moving on was easy, but every time I find myself alone and drowning in my sorrows. I want you to feel and understand what I am going through, but you are on the outside, and you will never know what is happening inside my mind, my heart and my read more…

A Time To Heal

By Annelize: We each arrive with an unknown amount of sand in the hourglass of life. Not knowing how much time we have, we just live life as if we have infinity available. During childhood it feels like we have all the time, time goes so slow and we are in control of our life read more…

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

By Annelize: Do you remember picking the leaves of the daisy flower just to know if he loves you… or not? Well, some or most relationships have periods of these where you are earnestly looking for a daisy to pick to make sure he still loves you… Every relationship has great days, awesome days, fun read more…

Let It Flow

By Annelize: Like water that runs wherever the path leads, so our lives need to be fluid. We want to hold on to a certain way of living or doing things. We don’t like change, we want things to stay the same, mostly forever. However, life is changing daily, we are changing daily. Just look read more…

It Is OK To Fall Apart

By Annelize: Nobody is perfect! Nobody has a perfect life! Yes, even those friends on Facebook that seem to have the ultimate life, showing off their achievements, their kids, their house. Even celebrities have their fair share of the, not so perfect life, just read some of the gossip magazines. We make choices, bad ones, read more…