By Gertrude: The Midlife Crisis is analogous to the concept of Man-On-Pause. A change in a man’s life and into the spiritual and soulful essence occurs when he becomes less conscious or concerned about body and mind and shifts into the spiritual and soulful agendas. Men too go through this change.
Even when it’s for the best, transitioning into anything new is never easy. We will all, at some point in our lives, pause to reevaluate and reflect, and when we do so, it is common for us to put on hold not only our relationships but also our feelings and even our natural physical needs.
Many of us are not aware of the changes that are not being discussed, and a good number of us are not even aware that this phase is occurring.
During this time, you will notice a shift in focus and concentration. a general lack of enthusiasm or energy, mood swings and irritability, poor concentration and short-term memory. When we are in a relationship, this can come across as a lack of attention, not feeling prioritized or appreciated.
Often making it seem this person is hot and cold. Forgetting to respond to messages, texts and communication. Not remembering significant things that you have spoken about. It appears as though they are uninterested.
You will find that their ability to concentrate and focus will change during this time period. An overall lack of interest or vigor in the activity, lability of mood as well as irritation. An inability to concentrate and remember things for the short term. When we are in a relationship, this can give the impression that we are not paying attention to the other person, that they and the relationship are not a priority, or that they are not respected.
This person’s behavior frequently gives the impression that they are hot or cold. Ignoring messages, texts, and other forms of communication without providing a response. They have substantial memory gaps for subjects that have been discussed previously. It would appear that they are not interested in the matter.
This can trigger a fear response in people who feel themselves changing but can’t understand it. They also see people around them reacting differently. So this is also a time where hermit-like behavior emerges. Wanting to spend time alone, or in the company of others.
We really are complex creatures experiencing things we literally have no control over. When your relationship seemingly is on pause and your partner is showing these signs, understand you can only be supportive. Understanding the situation on a practical level and not making decisions clouded by emotions. Understand this isn’t you, it’s not about the relationship you share. It’s about the relationship each of you has with yourself. Often we can become lost in a relationship because of a caring nature. Always give yourself a loving nudge and reminder that you truly are doing the best you can.
Those who feel that they are changing but are unable to comprehend the change may react with anxiety when they hear or read this. They also observe the responses of those around them, which are distinct. Thus, this is also the time when hermit-like tendencies begin to form. Having a desire to spend time alone or with several people at the same time.
We really are incredibly complicated animals who go through life encountering situations over which we have practically no say. When your relationship seems to be on hold and your partner is exhibiting these indications, it is important to realize that all you can do is offer support. Having an understanding of the problem from a more pragmatic standpoint and avoiding making decisions based on feelings.
Realize that this has nothing to do with you or the relationship that the two of you share. It comes down to the connection that each of you has with your own identity. Because we have such a caring disposition, it is easy for us to get sidetracked while we are in a relationship.
It is certainly difficult when the person you love or have feelings for is in this place spiritually and soulfully as it will be difficult for them to even recognize themselves. Never take it personally. However, keep your boundaries of self respect in order and be prepared to sometimes have to detach as the other person goes through this very important phase.
It is a time to take the time for you as well, give you a break from the over thinking. When someone we love is going through this it is also a message and the chance to leap forward in a practical way due to the effort you put into the other areas of your life.
When we move through life, we are confronted with circumstances over which we have very little control, which highlights the fact that humans are actually immensely complicated animals. It is imperative that you come to terms with the fact that all you can do is offer support when it looks as though your relationship has reached a standstill and your partner is exhibiting these signs.
Having a more rational view of the issue at hand and avoiding making judgements based on emotions are two important steps towards solving any challenge.
Understand that this does not in any way pertain to you or the connection that the two of you share with one another. The connection that each of you has with your own identity is going to be the deciding factor here. It is simple for us to become preoccupied with other things while we are in a romantic partnership since we are naturally compassionate people.
When the person you love or have feelings for is in this place spiritually and emotionally, it is surely challenging since it will be difficult for them to even recognize themselves. This will make it difficult for you to help them.
Never take something someone else says or does personally, but always have your boundaries of self-respect in check and be prepared to sometimes have to detach while the other person is going through a very significant moment in their life.
It is time to take some time for yourself and give yourself a breather from all the overthinking that has been going on. When someone we care about is going through something difficult, it can serve as a message to us as well as an opportunity to make significant strides in certain aspects of our lives because of the efforts we have put forth in other facets of our lives.
Love and Light,
Gertrude
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