Should I Wait For Him/Her?

By Gertrude: No. Waiting is the worst option. While you are waiting for the other person is working through their issues and moving in another direction. You can have patience. The difference between the two is that patience in a love outcome is by mutual agreement. With the understanding that while the timing is not now. You are both working towards that. Waiting is done alone. With confusion and the unknown.

When someone has decided to end a relationship, no matter if it is permanent or not, this is your meantime. This is where you get to reset, repair and reclaim. Instead of saying I don’t, you can now say I get to. You get to change those things. To realign your own life.

1gertrude2 If a relationship has ended in shock without warning or has been going down hill for some time, it doesn’t matter. The universe has allowed you to step back and breathe. But for most of us, we misuse the meantime. We are so caught up and clouded my emotion. We simply can’t see what a golden moment of opportunity it is.

Everybody’s circumstances are unique and as a psychic this is why I remote view and have created my own private deck of gold-leaf oracle cards. To look at the individual strands and connections that you have made with that other person to this point.

To look around thoughts, deeds and actions around you and what is your best outcome, what is the best solution for you.

When this happens, it is now doubt confusing. Time seems almost as if it has stood still. Waiting for the phone to ring. Checking your texts. Checking to see if your phone is still on. Checking to see if your texts are coming through OK. Waiting for someone to decide they are ready.

For some, that call never comes. It really is the end. For others that call does come and often with consequences. Without resolution without two people really working towards the same goal and destination, time, energy and life momentum is wasted.

Every single day of our lives counts. We matter. What we think matters. Now more than ever. Because you are hurt and confused. An aching heart is not a pleasant business. This is when we are at our most vulnerable.

I am an honest and very straightforward life reader. I will look for your purpose and will find uplifting and energizing steps and ladders for you to climb higher. To see that there is a silver lining. So expect me to be honest and supportive. We don’t need to chat for a long time either.

So never wait. Use this time to nurture, nourish and strengthen yourself. The best investment you will ever make is the one you make for you.

In the meantime, this is where you are confused, wondering if the person that you love or care about is going to get back in touch. Will they change their mind. Are they thinking of you. There is so much that goes on around us. Because our own feelings are so deep. Often we simply can’t understand how they are not feeling the same way.

When somebody shows you who they are, it is important to believe them. If somebody tells you they don’t want to be with you, believe them. If they are lying to themselves, believe them.

Often we have very important chapters and lessons in our lives and one of the biggest is to learn to accept that which we cannot change. This is a difficult lesson because often in a relationship is give and take and we feel our love for them is enough to change them or at least give it another shot.

By respecting your boundaries you will know when it is time to let somebody at least have their own space. Unanswered or ignored calls, texts and emails, is your answer. No.

What I have learned over the years though is that for those of you who recognize that not only can’t you change somebody else’s mind. Why would you? Especially when it comes to love. You don’t ever want to have to.

Please take this amazing opportunity to plant those seeds right now, the ones that will draw the best conditions, taking care of them so they bloom. So have patience for the situation if you are in a situation where you still have somewhat open communication and the plans are that there is some mutual understanding that this is a time for you both to grow.

If you are in this situation, please give me a call or let’s’ have a chat through the system. Let’s bring forward some positive focus on the heart and now. Not on the past or that unstable future. Overthinking a situation is never ideal, but sometimes just getting out what is looping around in your mind is helpful.


Love and Light,


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