Breaking The Mold On Toxic Relationships

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By Counselor Karen: You would be surprised how many people struggle with toxic relationships. Toxic relationships are those romantic connections, group of friends, or even some family members that cause you to feel down about yourself and those around you. Toxic relationships are those relationships that make you question your own self worth and also steal your joy when it comes to your own self esteem. It does not matter how long you have struggled with one because the good news is you don’t have to let these relationships tie you down.

karen3 Personally I have allowed myself to fall for these relationships over my lifetime. The thing is really good people tend to be victims of this more than anyone else and that is because people known as “giver” personalities don’t know how to say no or to tell people when they have had enough. You are not weak if you are like this, you just are lacking the basics of believing in yourself enough to cut those chains that bind and allow yourself the joy that life has to offer you without others dictating your happiness.

First off I always recommend if you are stuck in a position of hanging around people that hurt you, or talk behind your back, or even in a relationship where you are physically and mentally getting abused that you sit down and from your heart write a pros and cons list about the good and bad things that revolve around this person or people to help you decide if you need to cut the chains that bind you to them. If you really do this from the heart the answer will be on the bottom of that piece of paper when you are done.

Second, don’t feel bad about your decision to break away from the toxic relationship or relationships that are hurting you. God has a way of always bringing new people to your life when others have left. Seasons of life are real and there will always be seasons of change and new friends or love relationships around the corner. Don’t let the fear of being alone stop you from loving the most important person in your life and that is yourself. Once they have made you believe you are not worthy then really the only way to go is up in life in learning to love yourself again.

Third, you were the same person you were before this as you are going to be after except much stronger. Sometimes you just need to get back to what makes you happy and do things such as hobbies you dropped since the relationship started. Things that made you who you are and that brought joy to your heart.

Fourth, don’t beat yourself up for failing at trying to be with someone that did not value you or what you had to offer. Sometimes even people are just a reason for a season and you both move forward. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself it all boils down to they are hurting so they feel they have to hurt you. This usually happens because you are a great person and you tend to always be there for them even when they don’t deserve your attention.

Life is too short to stay around people that are negative and pull you down with them. Life is really too short to stay with someone that abuses you in any capacity. God gave us each one life and He wants us to live it to the fullest. Loving others most definitely, but on the other hand not being taken advantage of that you lose sight of the wonderful person you are and the great relationships that are in store for you. So break those chains that bind because when you do its happiness that you will find!

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Regards,

Counselor Karen

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9 thoughts on “Breaking The Mold On Toxic Relationships

  1. Latoya Stancil

    Hi, this is Latoya Stancil my dob is 1231978. My lover which we are now separatedining dob 9151975. Do you see a future with this man or do I need to let go for real this time…Is it just he don’thave enough love for me to hang on…I’m not allowed on life reader any more so how can we connect.

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  2. Felicia Cammack

    I been married for 22 years, to husband Ernest Eugene Cammack Jr. I want to know do you see this relationship for long term. His birthday is 08-28-1965, my name is Felicia Cammack my birthday is 07-10-1969. Iam scared of opening my heart to him. He does not want to tell me the truth if he is having affair on me with this women who used to live by me. I know he is still seeing her. He tell me that heven not fulling around on me. I want to get a private investigator so I can show him that he is lying to me. What Iam trying to get job and then I have the money to catch him. Then I can get my own lawyer. He went to church to talked to someone about helping put this marriage about together after his mother and aunt been trying to break this marriage and I have 13 year old son who love his father. I am confused what to do with this marriage. Iam not happy, I know I been betrayed. Please help me? Thank you, Felicia Cammack

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  3. Tameka

    I am going through a 14 years break up and this time I do not want to return…He has dog me and cheated on me, I truly believe he never loved me.I took care of his mom I have had his family back and I never ask them for shitThey borrow money never paid me back, he stole from me after I gave him everything…..Now he thinks he is getting a lawsuit for he called his self leaving me lol and sleeping with everybody and lying to them. NOW HE IS THERE PROBLEM! !!!! I am done with him, oh he is going to try and come back he is trying now but no help me to release him out my life…….!!!!!!!!

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  4. Jamila Vazquez

    Hi my dob is 12/11/1986 and my partner is 03/26/1984 do u see a beautiful future for us or are we not soul mates .i feel he is but don’t know if he is

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  5. Kassandra Wade

    Hi, I have been in a long term relationship with my partner, but now it seems like everything is falling apart. I have never cheated on my partner but he keep accusing me of cheating and I just want to know is he meant for me or not? My date of birth is 02/16/87 and his is 06/15/86.

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  6. Shelley Pleadwell

    3 months ago my then boyfriend of almost 5 years just up and said that he needed “ME” time and that was it…i moved out and a week later found out he was talking to someone else. 3 months went by with no contact on my part and he out of the blue started texting again. I’m more confused now than ever because he said that he was an idiot for letting me go and that he loved me….my dob is 11-24-1975 and his is 07-14-1973…are we meant for each other, do I go back, or do I just walk away….HELP

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