Are You Heart Broken?

By Gertrude: A broken heart isn’t just an emotional feeling. A broken heart is real. For many of us, it can take years to heal and mend. For others, it never does. Professionals now refer to broken heart syndrome as Takotsubo. It is considered to be triggered by intense physical or emotional stress.

Broken heart syndrome is a condition of the heart that is frequently triggered by demanding circumstances and strong emotions. Broken heart syndrome is frequently a transient ailment. But even after their hearts have healed, some people could still feel overwhelmed. Everybody has experienced heartbreak, which is accompanied by severe emotional distress.


Although a shattered heart is frequently linked to the termination of a romantic relationship, mourning is complex. Losing a job, switching careers, losing a close friend, or losing a loved one can all leave you heartbroken and make you feel as though your world will never be the same.

It cannot be avoided: it takes time to mend a damaged heart. However, there are steps you can do to safeguard your emotional welfare while you go through the process.

Self-care is important. It’s simple to neglect your personal needs while you’re experiencing heartbreak. However, sorrow physically exhausts you as much as emotionally. The same brain circuits are used to process both physical and emotional pain, according to study.

Exercise, meditation, and deep breathing are all effective energy-saving techniques. Don’t punish yourself for it though. Simply trying to eat and remain hydrated can make a big difference. One day at a time, take it slowly. Take the initiative to let others know what you need.

Note what you need. This is how it functions. Make a physical list of your requirements, including those for material and emotional assistance. This can entail going grocery shopping, cleaning or even just making phone calls. Take a stack of notes, and on each, jot down one thing. Give your supporters a note card or let them choose anything they think they can do when they ask how they can help. This lessens the strain to explain your needs when someone asks you.

Read books on self-improvement and listen to podcasts. You could feel less alone if you know that others have gone through similar situations and survived. You can also get validation and support by reading a book on your specific loss.

Try a positive activity Whether it’s journaling, spending time with a close friend, or watching a funny show, schedule time each day to do something that makes you feel good. Start thinking about developing new routines and habits that can help you continue to process your loss after giving yourself some time to grieve and attending to your needs. Avoid attempting to numb the discomfort. Don’t waste your time feeling guilty or ashamed of your feelings.

Consider allocating 10 to 15 minutes per day for you to acknowledge and experience your melancholy. If you pay close attention to it, you can notice that it appears less and less during the day. Develop compassion for yourself. Self-compassion entails loving and respecting yourself without passing judgment on who you are.

Consider how you would assist a close friend or member of your family who was struggling. To what would you respond? How would you respond to them? How might you demonstrate your concern? Apply the solutions you came up with to yourself.

Make time for it in your schedule. It can be simple to engage in activities to divert your attention when you’re going through a challenging time. While doing so can be beneficial, be sure to still give yourself time and space to process your emotions. Encourage new customs

You could feel as though you’ve lost a lifetime of customs and rituals if you’ve left a relationship or lost a loved one. Holidays can be especially challenging. Invite loved ones to participate in the development of new customs and memories. Don’t be afraid to ask for additional assistance during significant holidays.

Go outside. Spending even 2 hours a week outside has been shown to benefit both your physical and emotional wellbeing. It would be fantastic if you could visit some stunning scenery. However, even routine neighborhood strolls can be beneficial.

Get in touch with You. You could feel a little confused about yourself and who you are after experiencing a significant loss or shift. This can be accomplished through engaging in physical activity, spending time outside, or connecting with your spiritual and philosophical views.

If you are experiencing a broken heart for any life reason, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. As a holistic counselor having studied grief and bereavement, I am happy to offer any support or advice, and often something therapeutic is to talk to someone about the person or situation that has created all of this.


Love and Light,


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