By Sofia: Many of the women I coach come to me asking why does he pull away, why does he need a break or why does he seem distant? Though relationship on and off seem to be stressful and emotionally painful, if examined under a different perspective, you will find the intriguing nature of an energetic dance with your lover.
When you first met your partner, you came together at a point of an equal vibration. You approached each other in an energetic distance that felt safe for both of you. You started your connection dancing, leaning back and forth, giving to each other space or taking it. This is a dance of getting to know each other: testing boundaries, healing old wounds and overcoming fears. Dancing takes practice, so make sure that you don’t step on each other’s toes! When you both feel that you dance within a safe distance that allows this relationship to unfold step by step, you are both more open to receiving love and coming closer. Finding this sweet spot of equilibrium with him is important to keep dancing together forever!
You see, the purpose of a relationship is to help you evolve and grow to higher levels of consciousness. This is why throwing out of balance your partner isn’t always a bad move! You have been dancing solo for a long time, so if your partner pulls away because you went too fast, isn’t something to be feared, but a moment for you to shine and show off your best moves! The moment you realize the power you hold into your own happiness and light! It is an opportunity for you to see how well you trust yourself without needing a partner!
Starting a new relationship or working on an existing partnership is exciting and totally explorative! Though we all seek for emotional stability in our relationships, many of my clients discover that the fun begins when he pulls away. Dancing in and out of the safety of emotional stability allows you to discover the amazingly powerful woman you are! It is so easy to lose sight of who you are when you focus on your partner. Using several approaches and tools I teach, I help my clients not only remind themselves of the amazing women they are, but also get their man back without having to bend over backwards!
Men are naturally drawn to women who are happy with their lives and who they are. Women who are confident, warm, excited and in love with themselves! Women who are comfortable at being on their own, but also great team mates! When your partner pulls away, respecting his space gives you a great opportunity to discover your real needs and wants. Space is healing and allows you to detangle from codependent restrictive emotional patterns. Most of all, it helps you build a partnership that is equal and free – not a love that is clingy, needy or possessive. Under this light dancing in and out the rigidity of security becomes all the sudden liberating!
Love, Light and Healing,