>Share this Article on Facebook<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\nNegative Self-Talk: This self-defeating behavior is a direct result of fear and anxiety. Family and friends tend to \u201cargue\u201d or \u201crationalize\u201d the feelings but it rarely does any good since the person still feels anxious and fearful. Past experiences often create a vicious cycle of fear and failure.<\/p>\n
The Solution: Confidence comes with growth and success. The individual must learn new skills and understand that it takes time. Spiritual Counsel provides an opportunity to voice fears in a safe place while learning the skills needed to succeed.<\/p>\n
Procrastination: Many people suffering from an addiction desperately want to \u201cmake it up\u201d to those they love by doing whatever they think will make others happy. The lack of direction, guilt and tendency to please others creates an unhealthy situation that leads to frustration.<\/p>\n
The Solution: One of the key elements in working with a counselor is the ability to develop meaningful goals and objectives that reflect the hopes and aspirations of the individual \u2013 not others. The process can be frightening especially for those who have a strong desire to please others and may not even know what they enjoy or aspire toward.<\/p>\n
Non-Realistic Expectations: The tendency to make a problem larger than life or minimize the seriousness of a situation is a common theme among those dealing with issues of addiction. Perceptual problems are a symptom of the addiction itself. Remember, the disease of addiction actually interrupts brain function, disrupts thoughts process and impedes coping mechanisms leading to perceptual problems.<\/p>\n