The Fine Lines of Self-Prioritization

By Anntionet: Here in the Northern Hemisphere, we are smack in the middle of Spring. A time of renewal, new beginnings, and growth. We walk around and see colorful flowers exploding with fragrance and birds screaming out their songs in appeal to their mate. It is a busy time of year when people begin spending more and more time outside with yard work, outings and socializing with friends and neighbors. It is a time of year when it becomes very easy to let self-prioritization fall to the wayside as we allow our focus to zero in on the abundance of outside influences.

During this seasonal hub of activity, it is important to draw some annual fine lines regarding how the external activity is integrated into our internal activity. An example of this may be that a close friend has recently become engaged, has planned many celebratory activities and has asked for your help with planning both the wedding and these activities as well as to be involved in them when they happen. That’s quite a lot to ask of someone.


You want to help your friend, so you agree to their requests, but you also have school, career, family and volunteering priorities, etc. You fit their wedding planning and activities into your schedule anyway and before you know it, you are exhausted every evening when it’s time to help your friend, which takes away from the enjoyment of the celebration for the both of you. Then you feel like a walking zombie the next morning, causing you to be grouchy, ill-mannered and to lose focus with your significant other/spouse, children, boss, etc.

This goes on for weeks and there are still months to go before the wedding is supposed to take place and if you keep things up the way you have been, burnout will eventually follow. But you’ve already become committed so what do you do now?

You gently draw some fine lines. Perhaps your son or daughter is accustomed to you preparing their lunch for them every day, doing their laundry and generally cleaning up after them. If they are of proper age, then perhaps this is a good opportunity to guide and transition them into learning how to do these tasks for themselves. Maybe your mother is used to you taking her to the market every few days, but doing this takes up a lot of your spare time. Although it might be an enjoyable bonding time together, maybe this is a good time to open communication about improving her purchase planning and time management. Or your friend could be expecting more involvement and responsibility from you than is reasonable, because he/she must also juggle career, family and other responsibilities. This may be a necessary time to speak with your friend about delegating wedding responsibilities more evenly.

Wherever you decide to draw your lines and place your boundaries, being firm and consistent using loving kindness towards yourself and others is equally important. You will undoubtedly be met with resistance when you cease giving others the parts of you that they want and/or are accustomed to getting from you. Sometimes, no matter how well you explain your reasons for placing these boundaries, your reasons may not be heard or accepted by those whom you are placing them against because it goes against what they want. So, although it can be important to discuss the changes that you choose to make with the persons who the changes may affect, it is just as important to know when to stop explaining yourself and when you do not need to justify your self-prioritization.


I look forward to helping guide you through this.

Love and Light,


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A natural born gifted psychic help and has been helping people by connecting with their mind and their soul for over 15 years. Clairvoyant, Clairaudient, Clairsentient and Claircognizant.

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